For a long time, I thought healing meant fixing.

I believed that if I could just do more, give more, be more, I could take away people’s pain. But life — in all its complexity and messiness — has taught me a deeper truth. Healing isn’t about fixing. It’s about holding space. It’s about being present while someone finds their own way through. And I know this because I’ve lived it.

I’ve walked through abandonment, abuse, chronic illness, grief, and business burnout. I’ve raised extraordinary, complex children through illness, identity shifts, and emotional intensity. I’ve held my family together and tried to hold myself together at the same time.

 And somewhere along the way, I stopped trying to be the rescuer and became something else entirely: A witness. A steady presence. A space-holder.

For much of my life, I felt like I was the one who needed fixing. Like if I could just get it all right, be more stable, more perfect, more selfless, then maybe I’d be enough. Maybe I’d finally feel safe, seen, loved.

But the truth is, I wasn’t broken. I was doing my best in impossible situations. And I didn’t need fixing. I needed space — and time — to remember who I was.

 If you're feeling like this now, let me tell you something — you're not going crazy. It is bloody hard. And it’s okay to say that out loud.

Let me say it again for the people in the back. You’re not going crazy. It is bloody hard.

 Some seasons of life are brutal — overwhelming and relentless. But you won’t stay there forever. You will get through it. And one day, you’ll look back and realise you didn’t just survive it — you grew through it.

I’ve learned that you need a plan. You can’t just let life happen to you. You need your people — not to fix you, but to walk beside you. And you need safe spaces where you can be fully yourself — raw, tired, healing.

 That’s what I offer now through Vital Balance. Not just massage or therapy or "wellness" as a trend. But space. Real, grounded, compassionate space. Where you can soften. Where you can fall apart without being broken. Where you can come home to yourself.

My Why:

I’m here to hold space for real healing. Not to fix or rush people, but to offer grounded presence and compassion while they find their own way through. I believe in truth-telling, tenderness, and the quiet strength of simply being with someone in their pain. I’ve lived the unravelling. And I know the courage it takes to show up in your pain. My role isn’t to guide or push. It’s to hold the space steady while you reclaim your own power. What You Might Feel Here: People often tell me they feel safe, unhurried, and able to just be themselves in the space I hold. That they can soften, breathe, and not feel like they have to perform or explain everything. 

I don’t have a formula. I just try to meet people where they are, with empathy and presence. That comes from lived experience, not just professional training. I’m always learning, too. I understand what it’s like to carry invisible weight. And I know now that healing doesn’t happen in the fixing. It happens in the quiet moments of being seen, accepted, and gently supported.

This is the heart of Vital Balance. It’s not about pushing through. It’s not about quick fixes. It’s not about perfect. It’s about real. It’s about honest. It’s about enough.

If you’re in the middle of your hardest chapter, know this: You are not alone.

You are not broken.

You are becoming.

Come as you are. There is space for you here. 

Talk soon,

Robyn

Written by Robyn Owen — space-holder, mother, wife, therapist, sister, writer, truth-teller. Owner of Vital Balance.